Transition/Change Coaching

Transition/Change Coaching Let’s face it all of us have to deal with transition/change.  Sometimes the transition/change is welcomed, but it can still be stressful.  Transition/change that is unwelcomed can send us spiraling. Transition/change that is positive To name a few positive transition/change that a coach could assist you. Transition- Job Promotion Yes you are excited about this.  You may be transitioning into a Manager position.  Do you know what your plan is for the first 90 days? Your predecessor was beloved by the staff.  She/he was fired or left the organization.  How are you going to help the staff cope with this transition? Change-Relocation Company is opening a branch in Hawaii you’ve always dreamed of living in Hawaii.  What could possibly go wrong?  Parent/spouse/siblings don’t want you to go.  A family member is seriously ill. Transition-Accepted into Law or Medical school A step toward reaching your goals.  Many decisions to be made what type of law?  Should you specialize?  Where will you intern? You feel confident you have all the answers.  Have you asked yourself the hard questions?  Did you dig deep to know what your passionate about?  Are you following this path because you want to or because someone else wants you to and you didn’t want to disappoint? Transition/Change negative Loss of employment This is where a career coach might be helpful.  In this transition, you have an opportunity to do something you have put off doing.  Perhaps it is following your dream. Death of loved one The experts tell you that you should not make any significant changes after the passing of a spouse.  I have a...

Where To Start When You Lose A Job?

In these days of downsizings and awareness that it can happen to you, and when it does, it still comes as a shock. First thing you need to do is grieve the loss.  No more than a week. Then you need to create an action plan.  Number one on the action plan is to identify your core values and desires.  In other words, this is the time to know thyself. It is also a good opportunity to dream.  You have been given an opportunity to change your life.  You’re probably thinking, “this chick is nuts and doesn’t know what she’s talking about.”  Not true.  I have been downsized several times over.  I’ve heard it called downsized, right-sized, reorganization and don’t take it personal it’s just business. The first time it was the holidays.  Merry Christmas!  You will go through the sorrow, hurt, betrayal and anger phase.  Once you get to the anger…it’s “I’ll show them.”  That is a good sign.  Now you are ready to begin moving forward. Why do I say dream?  Think about the things you like to do that make time fly quickly.  That may be you new career path.  Don’t think small.  You don’t just want a job, you want to be happy doing the work you love. You need to dig deep within yourself to find out what that is.  A coach asks you the questions that you can’t think of to ask or are afraid to ask. A coach isn’t a resume writer or proof reader, they may assist with some of that, but the real goal is to help you discover what it is you...

When Are You Going To Forgive Yourself?

(h1) Getting Unstuck (h3) The Blame Game A coaching client, who I’ll call Ruth, was very negative and going on and on about ruining a car. Her husband telling her it was all her fault. What I heard was he should’ve fixed the car before she left or let her take the other car. She had an emergency with her mother and had to travel several miles.  I started questioning her. Did you destroy the car on purpose? No, he warned me it was a possibility that the car could overheat Did you run the car on purpose to cause it to overheat? No But because of it, we’re in severe financial straits. This went on and on blaming herself. For taking the trip.  For the car breaking down. The motor issue happened years ago and she blamed herself for their financial distress.  A son not being able to go to college. Everything was her fault in her mind. Listening to her, she sounded so wounded and hurt. I needed to find a way to bring her up out of this despair.  So I asked the question: When are you going to forgive yourself? Moving Forward: There was silence. Then she said, “I don’t know.  I never thought of it.” I asked her to repeat after me. “I forgive myself for the car breaking down. It was an accident.  I didn’t do it on purpose.”  She started giggling.  I requested she repeat after me again.  “I am a good person.  I make sound decisions.  I take responsibility for my actions when I’m wrong.  I love myself.” She paused. I...