Where To Start When You Lose A Job?

In these days of downsizings and awareness that it can happen to you, and when it does, it still comes as a shock. First thing you need to do is grieve the loss.  No more than a week. Then you need to create an action plan.  Number one on the action plan is to identify your core values and desires.  In other words, this is the time to know thyself. It is also a good opportunity to dream.  You have been given an opportunity to change your life.  You’re probably thinking, “this chick is nuts and doesn’t know what she’s talking about.”  Not true.  I have been downsized several times over.  I’ve heard it called downsized, right-sized, reorganization and don’t take it personal it’s just business. The first time it was the holidays.  Merry Christmas!  You will go through the sorrow, hurt, betrayal and anger phase.  Once you get to the anger…it’s “I’ll show them.”  That is a good sign.  Now you are ready to begin moving forward. Why do I say dream?  Think about the things you like to do that make time fly quickly.  That may be you new career path.  Don’t think small.  You don’t just want a job, you want to be happy doing the work you love. You need to dig deep within yourself to find out what that is.  A coach asks you the questions that you can’t think of to ask or are afraid to ask. A coach isn’t a resume writer or proof reader, they may assist with some of that, but the real goal is to help you discover what it is you...

When Are You Going To Forgive Yourself?

(h1) Getting Unstuck (h3) The Blame Game A coaching client, who I’ll call Ruth, was very negative and going on and on about ruining a car. Her husband telling her it was all her fault. What I heard was he should’ve fixed the car before she left or let her take the other car. She had an emergency with her mother and had to travel several miles.  I started questioning her. Did you destroy the car on purpose? No, he warned me it was a possibility that the car could overheat Did you run the car on purpose to cause it to overheat? No But because of it, we’re in severe financial straits. This went on and on blaming herself. For taking the trip.  For the car breaking down. The motor issue happened years ago and she blamed herself for their financial distress.  A son not being able to go to college. Everything was her fault in her mind. Listening to her, she sounded so wounded and hurt. I needed to find a way to bring her up out of this despair.  So I asked the question: When are you going to forgive yourself? Moving Forward: There was silence. Then she said, “I don’t know.  I never thought of it.” I asked her to repeat after me. “I forgive myself for the car breaking down. It was an accident.  I didn’t do it on purpose.”  She started giggling.  I requested she repeat after me again.  “I am a good person.  I make sound decisions.  I take responsibility for my actions when I’m wrong.  I love myself.” She paused. I...

Thinking of Becoming a Career Coach?

So you’re thinking of becoming a career coach? What is your motivation behind this career choice? Here are some suggestions to help you in your journey if you have the passion and drive to help people in this area of expertise. * Get some experience: If you are interested in helping others choose their career, working with clients will help you hone your own skills. Perhaps getting an entry-level job in a career services, or a workforce development setting would be a good start. Think about working in an environment where the staff believes in professional development and have results of helping people find significant careers. * Professional Development is a must: There’s always a learning curve when you begin working in a new field. Embarking into a profession where you are responsible for encouraging people with your expertise requires you to be equipped to learn. The job field is constantly evolving, so it’s important to keep yourself educated by reading up on things. Perhaps joining a career development organization and acquainting yourself with other industry professionals is a good idea. Networking with other industry professionals can provide more credibility. There are real benefits of joining organizations and earning certifications. No matter what field you choose you’ll need to push yourself so you can improve your skills. Certifications can be pricey- many organizations offer them. Do your homework to make sure the organizations offering the certifications are up to date. Another factor to consider- certifications don’t necessarily mean that you aren’t capable of doing your...

What’s The Difference?

There are some terms that are similar to the coaching process.  There is the sports coach, mentor, therapist.  Some require education and certification. Coaching vs. Mentoring Both are a one on one process providing analysis, reflection and an action plan that provides the client an opportunity to achieve success in one more areas of their life or work. The Coach and Mentor presume that the client is self-aware and ‘whole’ and has selected coaching or mentoring because they don’t require a therapeutic intervention, However, in personal and life coaching the coach may look for signs that the client is stuck and not moving forward, then the coach may make a recommendation that the client seek thereaputic help. Coaching is a process that enables the client to search inward to discover what is it they want. Deep thought provoking questions help the client to understand what is holding them back from reaching their goals and happiness. Mentoring is a learning and development process of one person transferring knowledge and skills to another. Usually following in the paths of an older person or colleague. Coach vs. Therapist The therapist is concerned with finding a cause to the lack of motivation and getting to the deeper underlining causes. The coach, on the other hand, is interested in setting goals and action plans and setting timeframe.  I think of it as the therapist looks backwards the coach looks forward. At any time, should the coach sense that a client is in danger either to himself or another person, they have an obligation to refer the client seek thereapeutic...

Thinking of Becoming a Career Coach?

Family members, friends, and even strangers may think you are obligate d to provide free services. Saying that two letter word is something you need to learn if you want to save your sanity and earn a living. Does that mean not to help a person in need? Not at all- just beware of those who will try and take advantage of your kindness. * Patience, patience, patience: Now that your website is up and running and you’ve announced your new career doesn’t mean the clients will be waiting in line. It will take time to build your business and brand, and tons of patience. This is where all that saved money enters the picture. The money you saved will come in handy for your website, SEO, professional development, and maybe travel expenses. You’ll need to decide what’s important: do you want to work with anybody or people who appreciate your approach to coaching and training. It might be more rewarding for you as a coach to work with those who want more than a job, but are set on wanting meaningful careers. Try to set goals for you and your company and remember it will take work, time, and patience. Remember the old saying… “Rome wasn’t built in a night”. While you’re obviously not building an entire city, you are building a business and the success of your future endeavor will take time. Taking a day at a time, everything will eventually fall into place. * Sock some money away for your business: If you’re thinking of starting a business as a career coach, save your money for...